I'm glad you are allowing your feelings to be there, but not necessarily acting on them. This is good work on your end!
I know it's hard but try to work on trying to seeing it from your H's friends perspective. All of "our" friends chose me instead of X. I actually had very little to do with that decision...and my gut would be to defend them if I had to. But they are big girls and boys and are responsible for their own actions.
Your H doesn't have that mindset yet. Make it safe for him to get there.
As you know this comes through validating and understanding. You absolutely do not have to agree with their decisions, but if you can learn to understand it and accept it that for whatever reason it happened, the understanding leads to validation which leads to healing.
Keep moving forward Vero. Hope to see you soon!
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
