I believe it has ALOT to do with whether there is OM involved. If she gave you a warning shot then do 180's FOR YOURSELF! You cant cater and smother. If you were distant (like I was) review your obligations and prioritize them. (I was out 4-5 nights a week with charities, chamber obligations, political events) I now have a simpler life,

Another distance issue I identified was alcohol and eating. I realized I used them as a escape. I addressed those issues as well- not addictions just used them the wrong way.

This is not about her- If these changes are for her they are band aids and will not last. Take this time to make you better. "Someone who only a fool would leave".

So what are you going to do these next two weeks? what steps will you take?

ME 38 W 37
T18 M5
D3
BD 1/7/13
PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing
2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13
W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13
First mediation appt 12/19/13