Oh THX, I'm so sorry, that must be extremely painful. Maybe apply the 48 hour do nothing rule for right now. Might not be smart to react from the hole you are in. I hope others who have experienced this will offer their advice.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
That's good advice, FY. In fact, I am leaning toward applying the 48 year do-nothing-rule!!!
I am going to break new ground in darkness. As in black hole darkness.
In my current state of mind, I have no desire to reconcile with W. Perhaps that might change, but all she is doing now is poisoning me, one dose at a time.
Me:52 Wife:49 Married 19 years Son:16 Daughter:14 Bomb dropped with ILYBNILWY: May 2013 Wife moved out 2Jun13
This has so thoroughly shaken the foundations of my life, and my understanding of who this person is that I married that I am just staggering around right now.
How can I even speak to her again, knowing this is going on?
I promise, once the shock wears off, you will find a little bit of clarity, then a little more, and some more...
Take it easy tonight. You have friends here.
Much Love,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
So sorry to hear this news. Catch your breath so that you can act rationally and don't do anything that could hurt the relationship with your kids. Its disgusting and appalling what you have learned and its OK to be angry, but be under control. Everyone is here for you. Have a good day today!
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
I don’t blame you for wanting to confront. If you do, make sure you have proof first.
What’s your plan after confronting her?
For the record I believe confronting/exposing her will take away some of the thrill. It also allows you to state your boundaries, and feel some control.
She’s addicted to the chemicals the brain produces during an affair right now, and won’t give up on that easily. Normally this lasts 6-24 months, but I’m going to guess that the huge difference in age here will cause this affair to die off at the earlier end. The puke is not going to sign up for any long term relationship.
Hang in there THX. You've been dealt some crappy cards... play them well, my friend.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
