But the other thing is you can never KNOW that he is not going to remove her from his life.
That's right. If and when a WAS decides to return to the LBS, they often go "all in". They tell the LBS they'll do anything to regain their trust, and often that involves removing an OP from their life. I've even read stories of WAS's changing jobs to get away from OP's. So it's true that you don't know what the future holds.
That said, 3BM, your sitch is still VERY young. You shouldn't expect to see any improvement from your H yet. I think you're being impatient wanting to force something regarding OW right now. There may be a time for that much later, but right now any pressure on your H is going to accelerate D.
