Yep. Like a HS girl with an addiction to <insert whatever it is here> and depression.
But what you can say is that she's noticing what you're doing. And what you're doing must be good for you and your state of mind - people throw stones at things that shine, right?
Again, this is not about you. She seems to be unhappy about something about herself and is trying to take it out on you. Mine was almost exactly the same way you describe. It's not a fun trip, but it's not one without benefits. I'm much better now than before; even I can see that. And as I got further and further detached and removed from my ex, I was able to see things sooooo much differently. You're making great strides in that direction, but you still are a bit incredulous at what is going on. And disgusted by it. Believe me when I tell you, there's more to come that will surprise you. But only if you continue to stay attached.
I'll be honest, it's hard as hell to detach when you're living it daily. When you're the target of her anger. When you watch as she tries to actively provoke you. To unbalance you. To accuse.
But it is possible. It's possible by living your life for you and your kids. There is no more action than that needed. In fact, anything beyond that is a waste of time and energy.
She'll come back or leave. It'll be her choice.
You just have to wait, but you don't have to watch or worry about the day to day or the outcome. You will be fine no matter what happens and you'll make sure your kids are as well. She is the only one that can help her. You are the only that cannot help her.
That's just how it is, I'm afraid. But you are on a positive path and while you'll be tested many times along the way, I'm sure you'll see that and be finer than today. You're on that trajectory...
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
