The difference between being needed and being needy.
This has confused me...if it does you, then read on.
..."Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs. When a man receives the message that she doesn't TRUST him to fulfill her needs, then he feels immediately rejected and is turned off.
ironically, men are primarily motivated by being needed but are turned off by neediness.
"Needing" is openly reaching out and asking for support from a man in a trusting manner, one that ASSUMES that he will do his best. This empowers them
"Neediness"," however, is desperately needing support because you don't trust you will get it. It pushes men away and makes them feel rejected and unappreciated.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
