H is hardening his heart. He has made up his mind that there is no fix to us.
WAS's always speak in absolutes. Things will NEVER get better, things have ALWAYS been bad, this marriage is completely done, etc. etc. Don't let it get to you. There are many happily reconciled couples out there who have heard the exact same words you're hearing now.
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I am scared, frozen in fear this morning.
Take a deep breath! This is a marathon, not a sprint. Your BD was less than a month ago, you've got many, many months of dealing with an unstable H ahead of you before he might even begin to turn around. You're letting his mood dictate yours. You're on his roller coaster. You've got to step back, detach, work on you, leave him to it.
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Despite all the progress I thought I was making, I am a train wreck.
Your expectations are too high, you're expecting changes too soon. Just keep to your DB'ing and drop the expectations. Don't expect to see progress from your H anytime soon. It's normal to have anxiety early on, just keep at it, it gets better!
