Aiming for the PMA of a glow worm....

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I'm with MH on this, I'm starting to get this vibe as well If he would just get over this obstacle with your dad, then I'm sure things would improve

If I look back I'd say this obstacle with my dad is part of his MLC as it seems to have started around the same time as the rest of his behaviour changes.

He always used to say that my dad was closest thing he's got to a dad - his own rejected him in favour of the GF's son when H was 9 and H has hated his father ever since. He's always said that the only contact he wanted with his father now was to dance on his grave.

It also matches with H's attitude towards his own family - he told them in January that he would never be going back to the UK, not even for his mother's funeral. And up until MIL's health scare, he had even less contact with them over the last year than he used to. He didn't even phone his mum on Mother's Day (UK date or the Canadian one).

I'm guessing that until he comes out of the MLC fog, things are not going to improve on that front. Of course, if I can get myself into a position to be able to get my own place that may help as well.