I won't give up II

[RosaLinda]

Hi NLT, just checking in on you and found...this! Holy crow. 

One thing I cannot understand is why our MLCers go to such extreme lengths to overlook the bad things about their OP, to excuse thir behavior. 

A rational person would have dumped OW after the kayak stunt. Not let her move back in and prance around town in a mini skirt and go-go cowboy boots waving at his wife and upsetting his daughter. I guess the operative word her is "rational," huh? Do you think it's that they just cannot admit they were wrong, or are just too crazy?

You asked "Flaunting it around town is not a boundary that I can set, or can I?" I don't think it is. How could you enforce it? But you could enforce insisting H tell your daughter the truth. 

I'm glad she was truly not affected by their behavior (this time) and even happier that H thinks that she WAS. I agree with the others. He is living with OW in your town. Flaunting it, like you said. I agree with Bright, Ellie, Portia and Bea. It's time for H to face the reality, the consequences. If he is not man enough to tell your daughter he left you and is living with that slut in the hooker outfit, then the only alternative is for him to STOP living with the slut in the hooker outfit. His choice. 

And good for you, sticking to your guns about the proceeds of the car sale. 

And, about letting go of that pent up anger in a rant....that is not my nature either but I finally blew a gasket, as Wonka described it, and gave my H's OW Russian slut a giant piece of my mind and described the reality of my H's situation to her while he was talking to her on skype. 

I was appalled at myself, but it felt GOOD, NLT. I would not recommend it as an ongoing 180, but finally allowing yourself to feel your anger and get it off your chest after stuffing it down for well over a year would feel GOOD. Go for it!