And the beat goes on..!

[littleGTO]

OMG!! I came on here tonight and was OVERWHELMED by all the positive responses to my post! So, thank you to all of you!!

Your support here has meant more to me than I can tell you! Way more. Without this place, without all of you I would not have made it the place in my journey I am in right now!

I do have a new situation that arose today that I need some advice on...
My H texted me today (just so you know we haven't filed but are going into mediation next week) and said we need to talk about the holidays.

I got all tense because I didn't know what he was alluding to exactly. But then he texted me later that his sister (his ONLY sibling who we have ALWAYS had THanksgiving with) was wondering about the holidays--- she didn't want "ackwardness or tension" at her house at the holidays. I can understand that...didn't really think this through at all yet.

So, my H texted me that he wanted me to go to her house for THanksgiving with the boys. I was shocked he offered this. His sister and his dad are his only family. He said he did NOT have other plans & that's not why he was offering...he said he didn't want me to be alone.

I don't have any family nearby either. But, I would feel strange being there knowing that he is not and would wonder how his dad and sister would feel that I came instead of him.

They live too far away for both of us to visit at different times in the day, so that really isn't an option.

Any advice? And, then there's Christmas around the corner too. We just fumbled our way through both holidays last year for the sake of the boys but this year is different... I dont know about faking what is no longer real,,, even for the benefit of the kids.