New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

So, since I was waiting for my post to get approved I have been working hard to be amiable and aloof and busy... 24 hours of giving him space, exchanging minimal conversation.

This morning when he came home to get showered and dressed for work I was still in bed. He said Hello and reminded me he wasn't going to be intimate with me, even though I am still a "sexy momma." I simply replied with my own hello and that "I know." He asked if I had plans for the day, I said I'd really like to get some laundry done (our dryer is broken so I have had to wait on access to the car to wash clothes and take them to dry). He said that should be fine, he would come home for lunch and work from home this afternoon and maybe he'd go with me. But he was leaving a bag of clothes in the hall if I had time to get to doing his too.

Well, that was something of a fib. He went and run a lot of "errands" that sounded like window shopping to me and went and ate out at a place we used to always go to together. Kind of a jerky move. And then of course by the time he got back I was put in a position to feel rushed to go to the laundry and grab groceries before he planned to leave to skate. (Apparently he has gone to skate like 4 of the last 5 days and he feels really good about it, I told him I was glad he was exercising more and it was making him feel good. -- Validation!!)

I took my sweet time doing the laundry anyways, since I did wash his stuff too, I thought that was nice enough of me (should I be doing his laundry? I don't know, someone tell me). So I folded all the laundry at the laundromat and took my time getting the groceries and got back about an hour after he had told me he wanted to leave. I just told him a couple things were rolled up and needed more drying time so I used that extra time to start folding stuff and then I just felt like finishing what I started. He seemed okay with that, and he wasn't actually ready to go anyways when I got home.

He is off skating again, looks like he packed a bag so I guess he is staying the OW. Bleh. I wish he was staying here, even if it was sleeping in a different room it would be easier to cope with.

Incidentally, he came home and announced to me after the first THREE times he had sex with her that he couldn't have an orgasm and she didn't either. I asked if he was being safe and using a condom (in a previous discussion I begged him to make her get an STD test before they got physical.. that didn't happen). He says they are. He asked if I had any opinions about why he couldn't have an "O" with OW. I shrugged and said, "maybe neither of you is ready for that level of intimacy, maybe it was too soon." He seemed to think he was just tired and "intimidated by her." Whatever pal. It's probably just because he hasn't had to have sex with a condom in a decade. But I am not telling him that. Anyways, back in the day he had no problems performing.

After that I didn't bother asking for updates on their sexual status. I don't want to know, but I honestly hope he can never have an orgasm with her. That would be delightfully karmic and sure to put a damper on things real quick. :P

One more question I have... his birthday is coming up THIS weekend, on Sunday. I had queued up and ordered prints of lots of OLD pictures of us and our son and eachother when we were young and obviously happy. I wanted to make a photo collage, but since he is barely staying here he has no where to hang it where he will see it much anyways. Think now of putting them in a mini-photo album. Is that too much? Is it too personal/emotional/potentially volatile? Will it probably make him freak out and run farther and faster? Would just a card be better? I really want him to have to see visual evidence of himself smiling on my account, but maybe it's not a good idea at this early stage?