One of the things that helped me is to stop watching and waiting for any sign from your W that she might be turning your way.

When we watch them we take the focus off of where it belongs.

On you.

She has given you time so don't waste it.

Ok so you know kinda "what" happened and you are blaming that on your parents.

That is is a start we recognize there was a problem.

I am a big fan of no buts or excuses. What do I mean?

I could have had good marriage BUT my parents didn't raise me the right way.

At some point you're going to have to dig deeper here indigo.

Why did it not feel right for you?

ALL these questions are for you. Not me. I don't need to know them.

But you do.

Also you are NOT to blame for your W having an affair so don't take that arrow.

Not unless you are paying the guy to do it?..

That hers.

Last thing. What are you prepared to do for your M if you are not guaranteed it can be saved?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am