As AS has modeled, you need to make your own list of what you must have before you agree to let him move in.

Do NOT let him move in thinking it will be better for the kids and you *hope* it will get better if he's home versus not.

Hope is not your friend with a WAS.

Acc

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015