that's a great idea job. it reminded me that when my S16 wasn't talking (he is also a gamer), I would just go down and sit with him while he was playing, just to let him know my presence was there. I never asked about talking or anything.

A few times after that when he was suddenly very quiet, I would just say 'I'm here to talk with you about anything, you know that right?' Then I wouldn't say anything further or wait for any kind of response or reaction, just leave him to himself.

A few weeks ago he talked to me about something very personal to him, so I knew he felt comfortable when he DID want to talk about it..

Just some thoughts I had while reading job's post.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.