I don't know why, but my anxiety has been building all afternoon and evening. After so much communication last week, she has been cool and relatively quiet this week. Is this more of the roller coaster and I should know better?
Yes.
Originally Posted By: Dragon Heart
Or did I blow my chance when there was a fragile moment on her part?
Think about it either way. Let's say the answer is "yes, you totally blew it." What does that change? You can't go back and relive that moment to what you're second guessing yourself about. You can't over-correct in the other direction to make up for it. All you can do is learn from it and move forward with becoming the man you want and need to become.
Now let's say the answer is the much more likely "no, you didn't blow it, are over-thinking this, and are on her roller coaster." What does that change? The advice is still the same:
All you can do is learn from each interaction and move forward with becoming the man you want and need to become.
Don't beat yourself up, and don't think one event holds all the weight of the world in its hands. Your mind can make you think that you are walking on a tightrope above a very deep ravine...that any wrong move you make - even the slightest lean in the wrong direction - leads to instant death. That is a very draining way to live life! And it won't do you any good to be under that kind of constant stress.
Realize your journey is much more like being on a stable road, moving forward. You may veer to the left and the right a little, but just focus on keeping it between the lines and you'll be fine.
Master your basics first!
-PM
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"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
