Why does he want to move back into the spare bedroom? Sounds to me like he doesn't want to work on the M, and if that's the case if it were me I absolutely would not let him move back in. I agree with Jon and HWA on boundaries. If my W ever broaches the subject of moving back in, the minimum I would expect from her is:
- Break it off with OM - Allow me access to phone and email accounts - Commit to working on the M - Set up MC - Attend Retrouvaille (again)
If he doesn't want to work on the M and he moves back in, it will likely make things harder on you. I've seen it happen and I've seen the LBS's turn into WAS's because of it.
