Not to pile on, but I would agree with AS, now is not the time for major decisions. Now is the time to pull back and truly reflect.
In my sitch, when I found out about PA I did not react nearly as calmly as you mention in your posts. I was angry, I guilted and practically bullied my W into filing the papers the very next day. After I had calmed down and analyzed the real sitch I didn't want D. I could see W confusion and the part I had played in it. Unfortunately all my emotional thrashing in those first days after BD only made the sitch worse and pushed my real goals farther down the timeline.
Listen to the advice of the vets, even if its harsh, its meant to help in a very difficult time when mistakes are easy to make.
me: 30 XW:28 tgthr:4 m:1 no kids BD: June 2013 D: Jan 2014
