S, Thank you for both posts! H believed what he said then and again now.
It is really hard for me to "act" nice to him when he is such a mean, nasty person right now. H said last night I don't know why you care about me and OW? I said you live here, we are married, so is she and it is disrespectful to me. If we were separated and you didn't live here it would be another story.
Oh, God help me to be nice when it is met with such nastiness!! I am really trying to be pleasant and nice to him when he is here. It is just challenging!!!! I know I could just not say anything but I know he responds with kindness. This has been a BIG part of our problem. When he's mad or in a bad mood ( for whatever reason) I get mad too and vise versa. I need to be the one to change it. I need to break that chain.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
