WAS left, focusing on me, DB'ing like an amateur

[labug]

Just catching up and read this:

thought it odd she felt the need to send out messages rather than just unfriend them and be done with it. We did some mindreading together and decided she sounds pretty conflicted

which caught my eye.

This is something I would have done in the past. If i explained what might be perceived by others as rude they would understand and still "like" me. That was very important because my self worth came form what other thought of me.

I don't know if that's your W's thought process but it illustrates the fact that you don't know what her thoughts are and you won't unless she tells you so, give it not meaning at all. If you let yourself create a reason and hold it as the truth, it colors your interaction with her. Let it go, it has no meaning.

Let her do what she needs to do.

That she's conflicted is probably true, most people are.