jp, You stated you are not afraid of getting hurt. Are you sure? I am wondering if your self-sabotaging is an instinct for protecting yourself against getting hurt. You also feel the need to be in control. Do you feel that what you have is too good to last, and feel it will fail, so your self-sabotaging in order to remain in control?
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.