Thank you also, Bright. and CP but I'm not sure H will see my hissy fit as strength, I hope he does. Here is my 180 - I am going to follow Bea's advice and demand to be treated with respect from now on. Starting with him removing some salt and pepper shakers she gave him from the dining room and not wearing those booties RT knit him around the house.
I think you can see it as a turning point, starting with your refusing to be disrespected around the home. Good for you!
Originally Posted By: RosaLinda
uR you made me laugh and laugh. Can you just see me strutting around saying "yeah watch out, back off, here comes Rosa"??? But I will adopt a new mindset. I have always thought respect must be earned, not demanded. But I am going to start showing H that I will not let him treat me with disrespect. I think that is different. Those puke green booties will be my first attempt.
You are off to a good start here with the new, more confident mindset, perhaps "Rosa-Fierce" alter-ego! hehe. Just joking, but in all honesty you can start putting your foot down on the things around the home that are bothering you that you don't have to tolerate any longer. Sometimes in order to be respected you need to stand up for what you believe in. And it is ok to do so.
I think you are underestimating the effect your rant had on your H. You stated he was acting unusually nice around the house.. I am guessing it has to do with him feeling guilt over how the conversation went. In my previous experience, after a fight with my H, usually he would act really nice afterwards if he felt bad about it. Something to think about anyhow.
Hope you are doing ok, dear RL. Good luck with the salt shakers scenario.. stand your ground
-cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
