So sorry to hear about this indigo. I am really hurting for you right now. In my sitch, W has held onto the fact that her A is just emotional, never physical. In my world, that's worse. Emotional connection is more devastating than a one night stand. I hope your W is being fully truthful with you. It's pretty sorry that she has OM around D "every night." Keep your boundary set and be ready to "die on that hill."
Be strong and know that everyone here is listening.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13