You're absolutely right, bug. I will work on my information gathering, Thanks for the nudge!
Life is getting super busy for me now - Halloween, volunteering, S's doctor appointment this week, holidays approaching, etc. I'm not going to have a lot of time to think about what H is doing, and that's a good thing. For now, I'm going to keep doing what I've been doing - let him initiate contact; keep things friendly and light; focus on me and S.
