You'll think of me....

[RosaLinda]

Well I am flabbergasted by the outpouring of support. The people on this forum are really very special. Thank you all for your friendship. 

Well Heather, RT wasn't actually in my house, she lives in Moscow. My H was talking to her on skype. But the three of us all heard and saw each other on the skype video on the computer screen. I swear I saw red when H said "hold on a minute honey" to her. I'm so glad she was NOT there in person, I felt so angry that I seriously would have hurt her. So yup Wonka, I guess you could say I blew a gasket. And you and Ellie are right, it DID feel good to get all that pent up anger out. Heather I'm liking your idea of a LBS vigilante group, sort of a first wives club. We could do some of Angela's interventions

Thanks FY, I did really really want to write an email to RT. I really wanted her to know I not only was not lying, but I didn't tell her a quarter of what H had said about her. I wanted to write it because he kept yelling that he had not said the things I told her that he said, and I know afterwards he probably told her I'm hysterical and lying. Nero I like your description - blubbering and covering up. 

But I think the wiser course might be to follow wonka, Job and uR's advice not to. But if I ever DO email her, I'll be sure to let her know I've applied for a pistol permit All Alone I bet your email WAS caustic. I've written a couple of unsent doozies myself over the years. 

I didn't want to apologize to H either, but did end up telling him I'm sorry for some stupid reason. He had been acting strangely pleasant and friendly all evening, and showed me a photo of a car he is interested in buying but said the final decision is mine as I earn all the money. I felt badly and said "sorry about that" and he said "don't apologize, what you said was true." i guess he meant about him not working and not being able to get a green card for RT. but I hope he meant about everything. He is MLC confused but how could he forget that horrible R conversation he initiated less than 2 weeks ago. 

He made a remark later in the evening and called himself a liar. He said that Pres Obama lied to over 200 million people, but he only lies to one person at a time. He is SO strange sometimes. 

Thanks Patient Man, that was not a real good example of being detached, was it ? It's not nice to use a gal's own words against her. 

Thank you also, Bright. and CP but I'm not sure H will see my hissy fit as strength, I hope he does. Here is my 180 - I am going to follow Bea's advice and demand to be treated with respect from now on. Starting with him removing some salt and pepper shakers she gave him from the dining room and not wearing those booties RT knit him around the house. I hate them so much. They are a symbol of her devotion and seeing him wear them makes me want to puke. 

uR you made me laugh and laugh. Can you just see me strutting around saying "yeah watch out, back off, here comes Rosa"??? But I will adopt a new mindset. I have always thought respect must be earned, not demanded. But I am going to start showing H that I will not let him treat me with disrespect. I think that is different. Those puke green booties will be my first attempt. Dawn has been trying to teach her H to treat her with respect. I will too.  I'm not sure if you would consider this small action a "truth dart" T2, but it is a huge step for me. I've never been good with confronation.

Rose I'm pretty sure RT did not believe me judging by the way she laughed and smirked each time I said anything. She is simply vile. I cannot believe my H is infatuated with such a bitch. Although he did tell me how horrible she is, aggressive, coarse, can never admit she's wrong about anything or does not know something. God it hurts to think my H, the father of my children, is ready to throw me over for such an evil creature. Gnat. But at least I have the satisfaction of knowing she will make him miserable. 

H is not up yet. I put RT's salt shakers by the pot he heats his fermented oatmeal in and am girding my loins for more confrontation.