Anitasues- sounds like you are having some difficult things to deal with right now. Just remember affection will come. Dont fall into the OM trap, it will just end up hurting everything you have been working so hard towards! Girl, I wish there was something I could do to help you in your sitch w/ Om. I hope and pray you dont get into the grass is greener mindset.
Like Rott I dated a guy after my D that had a major drug problem, I stuck around thinking everytime he told me he was going to quit that he was actually going to quit. I thought(up until recently) that I was staying for him and his son (5 and a sweetie, called me mom!) But I actually stayed because I needed to be needed. Its a woman thing I guess.
My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
well, you hit it right on--I need to be needed, always have I think one of the reasons why I strayed, ex h wasn't around, therefore, wasn't around to need me and this guy did. I really do believe he has stopped drinking for now. He is working hard on his promotion. His family (OM"S) loves me. We all get along so well, they all knew I was still married when I was with their son and they accepted me anyway. My ex inlaws, well they are from the old country in Poland and because I am not Polish I haven't been truly accepted. It just feels good to be accepted when you go to family gatherings. I know now I'm getting so wishy and mushy. I just can't wait until our first c session in May then maybe all this stuff will come out. but at least everyone here trying to work on their m got a little bit of affection aka..ml, or a hug, It takes two and I feel like in the affection end, I'm doing everything. I don't want to just come out and say all this and waiting for the c session, but it was like I was his sister visiting for easter only I got to see him in his underwear!!
Hi everyone, I had to change my log on I'm now suzyblue instead of anitasues. things are okay, my daughter and I went to see FAME last night it was awesome and nice night out felt great accept I kept having thoughts of am I doing the right thing? then I started thinking that since I have these thoughts maybe I shouldn't be getting back with ex-oh, I don't know anymore!!! boy, I can't wait until May!
You are doing the right thing. Your d needs her parents together. You can pray to love your husband again, you can ask God for more affection from your x-h. God can work a miracle.
He did for me! I was like you always having to give, give and get nothing!!! Now it's so different because I believe God can work through my h. It's like a honeymoon!!
I totally agree with cindy_f. You are doing the right thing and god does work miracles. The negative thoughts you are having is the handy work of the Devil. Dont let the Devil win. You are a strong, confident woman that knows what she wants and it patient enough to wait to get her reward! Hugs and prayers are with you.
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
hey rottzilla, I haven't been on the boards either, kinda been in a mood. I will catch up on yours.l No news means, nothing going on, no progress on the home front. He was a little sassy to me the other day, I think that was his way of flirting. I took my daughter to see FAME last night, it was awesome! just what I needed!
I know that GOD has a plan for us, its really hard some days. Plus, I think I'm going through something, I'm going to be 40 soon and lately I just have thoughts that I'm wasting my time, I want to get on with my life. My ex sister-in law had an affair the same time I was and now she married her lover and is having a baby and she was told that she could not have children. Her life has moved on and I'm in limbo
