I get where you are coming from, so many times I held myself, like you have. You know, the few times I have let it out with big nuclear tipped truth darts, things moved....took a while, but they did.
So, as others have said, get back to being the wonderful you, head high. Reserve your truth darts for "H only" going forward, don't give that POS homewrecker any more of your energy (though it IS so tempting, on occasion I might be known to fantasize about so good old fashioned retribution on some scumbag OM's...but that doesn't serve me, so I let it go). I have also found that calm, rational small truth datrs can be effective, if only to keep my own pot from boiling over
And in some/most/all(?) sitches, truth darts are necessary from time to time. It's okay, imo.
Hang in there!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
