well, you hit it right on--I need to be needed, always have I think one of the reasons why I strayed, ex h wasn't around, therefore, wasn't around to need me and this guy did. I really do believe he has stopped drinking for now. He is working hard on his promotion. His family (OM"S) loves me. We all get along so well, they all knew I was still married when I was with their son and they accepted me anyway. My ex inlaws, well they are from the old country in Poland and because I am not Polish I haven't been truly accepted. It just feels good to be accepted when you go to family gatherings. I know now I'm getting so wishy and mushy. I just can't wait until our first c session in May then maybe all this stuff will come out. but at least everyone here trying to work on their m got a little bit of affection aka..ml, or a hug, It takes two and I feel like in the affection end, I'm doing everything. I don't want to just come out and say all this and waiting for the c session, but it was like I was his sister visiting for easter only I got to see him in his underwear!!