Thanks - @gabby and @NTX_Dad. I've had my suspicions for awhile.
Interesting night; I'm honestly WAY happier than I thought I would be. Just 15 minutes ago, W finally admitted to a PA, which I sort of already knew. She said it only happened twice, and she hated herself afterwards.
She told me she already called her attorney and dismissed divorce, because she's so disgusted, she can't stand herself and she wants to prove she wants to be with me.
Well, friends and neighbors, this is a classic case of "too little, too late."
Thanks everyone for standing with me through my crazy rollercoasters; I have learned so much even if it seems I didn't apply it.
I am happy to have this dance over with; I am free!