AJ-love your insight. It always comes in handy and on point. I've read many resources about MLC from other websites and books. Many of those talk about unresolved issues from childhood being the cause for MLC. I can certainly make that fit for W because her mother left when she was 12 and she says she was never good enough for her father to be proud if her. Add into that that her first sexual encounter was a rape at age 16 and there's plenty of cause for her to be "messed up" as she says.
She has even said she thinks IC would be good for her, but she has not pursued it. In some of her more lucid moments in the last 4 months, she has acknowledged that she doesn't understand why she is doing and has done this. She says it isn't her and can't explain it. MLC fog, anyone?
As far as her trying not to cheat, I wish I could believe it. She spends 95% of her time at home laying by herself on our bed watching tv and doing whatever on her phone. S10 is very attached to her and has taken to going in there to lay with her over the last couple of weeks and watch tv and be around her. Kind of sad.
I also had a great talk with W's BFF yesterday. Things have gotten a little weird between us. We have always been good friends and gotten along famously. W brought it up the other night during venom spitting time. Said I was not talking to BFF and she didn't understand it. I told BFF that there was no reason for anything to be weird between us and that I was trying to become a better man whether that included W or not. It was like a huge cloud cleared between us. She gave me a big hug tonight and told me thank you. Felt good.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
