How to handle spouse moving back into the house?

[hotwheelsaust]

I would agree with JonF and listen to some vets who have gone through a WAS having an affair. You would need to set some very high bars for your H, before he could come back. You need to get some trust back, and if that means checking the phone anytime you feel fit to, or having passwords to all the electronic stuff, then that is the requirement he must accept to come back to the house.