So lost and hurt #3

[ancient warrior]

I don't really know how to say this but as you know I'm a pretty sensitive person and thinking you're upset with me is killing me.

Honesty? or just telling you what she thinks you want to hear?

I'm trying to work through a lot in my head and I'm really confused.

This may be true, but you can't fix it. And she is going to need help to work through this. She needs some IC to get through this not the crutch of OM. He has his own issues to deal with and shouldn't interfere in yours.

I can't make any promises or tell you what's going to happen. I don't want you to be mad/upset with me.

She can't control you and how you feel. She surely doesn't seem to understand or care much about how you feel over this. Only how it effects her.

I'm doing what I have to do to figure out what I want. I'm not angry at you any longer but everything is still there, all the hurt, all the bad treatment. It's hard to let go and I'll never be able to forget it. I just need you to know that I appreciate your efforts and I am trying.

By no means am I an expert, but step back as best you can. Look at this as if you're objective. She has said somethings that your bias wants to take as encouragement. I am not saying don't be positive, but you've only been at this a short while and as most on this board understand this is marathon not a sprint. Be consistent with your boundaries. If you are not willing to die on the hill over a boundary, don't set one.

Reading into her words could easily get your hopes us. It's actions over time that will tell the tale.

Wishing you the best.