"I still don't play my instrument at home because W criticized this before,"
So start playing at home and get your kids involved if you can.
"W pointed out that it was not so dirty and so this was environmentally and financially wasteful (we try to be environmentally conscious), and I was dissuaded."
After she said that, you should have told her 'noted' and then wash the car anyway.
Why are you still living in fear of her? That's why she's still leaving.
"Isn't 'leading' really more of a negotiation or persuading rather than a commanding the other(s)?"
No it's a take charge attitude where you know what actions to take and when to take them. You negotiate when you need to and you make plans on your own when needed. It's making A decision and not let others make the decision for you. Which is what you allow your W to do time and time and time and time and time again.
No offense, but your W seems like a total b*tch.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
