Why would you ever apologize to the OW/OM??! S/he is not in the marriage. Don't even dignify or acknowledge her presence much LESS apologizing to her!!!
Because RL already dignified her presence by blowing up. RT WANTS RL to be pissed at her! I'd want to take that away, not leave her smirking like she was and still is. I guarantee an apology will have her wondering what the heck is going on. Especially when you tell her H is free to join her... and he never does.
The contacting the OW can of worms has already been opened. Now close it right.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
