He has been up and down emotionally since then. One day wanting a D, the next day he misses me and loves me. I'm pretty sure MLC.
Sounds more like WAS, unless there's more indications that you didn't mention. Like Jon said, recovering from an OP is not a linear process. The WAS will flip-flop a lot during their grieving and recovery.
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I feel really strong right now, I've detached and I honestly don't have that pain in my heart anymore.
That's great, sounds like you've done some effective DB'ing!
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Yesterday evening, he comes over and hugs me and asks me if I want him back. I said if he wants to even begin to work on it, he has to do NC with OW in front of me.
GREAT! I'd also tell him that if he's serious then HE needs to set up MC for the two of you. Also consider Retrouvaille if it's in your area, it will help both of you immensely.
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Now he wants to go to dinner tonight. My problem is this, I'm not sure what I'm feeling right now.
You're feeling WAS-type feelings. That's actually pretty normal, you've gotten to a good place and you're not sure you want to open yourself up to being hurt again, to trusting him again when he's done so much to breach your trust. Just remember, the goal is NEVER to go back to what you had. It was broken, consider it dead and gone. The question to ask yourself is this- is this a man that you think you could fall back in love with? Are you willing to give that a chance? Go to the dinner and explore that.
