Don't write her off. [Because if I was smooching with you in a parking lot, I'd know how I feel. :-)]
Maybe leave her alone for a bit? From what you wrote, it sounds as though she's going to be busy and her schedule seems pretty hectic with some unknowns. I know when I have weeks like this (and travel coming up), I'm not exactly an easy person to schedule anything, and this includes my friends. If I feel overwhelmed, I back off from pretty much everything except my obvious commitments: work and D16. And if I feel any pressure, I crawl into my turtle shell. (Um, I'm in this mode right now, to be perfectly honest.)
I can't speak for Barbara, though. So pay attention to your intuition over us. But I'll be the one who advises you not to fret too much at this point. Get busy Christmas shopping and devote that energy into your daughters...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
