I agree with MrB. Setting boundaries can help you gain back some self-worth and control. Not control in a superior way, but in a way that allows you to feel like you are not being taken advantage of in this mixed up crazyville of a world.
Sorry you found this out. That hurts.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.