Jfun - I just caught up on your sitch. You are doing an amazing job considering your wife's behavior. Your W is definitely trying to get a reaction out of you. Hopefully she will let up when she realizes that you are not going to respond. I think that it is a way of them testing to see if the changes you have made are real and/or an act to win them back. She does not want you to make the changes because you are taking away the things that she has used to justify her actions.
I give you credit for standing for your marriage while you are still in the same home with W. I have a hard enough time having to see H each day. Keep standing strong and focusing on you and your kids.
