New to This - An English Man In Trouble

[AnotherStander]

and i go into overdrive over-thinking every possible scenario and what i can do to make it better.

The best reaction you can ever have to your W's mood swings is maintaining your PMA. That's a big sign of detachment, when you can be happy whether your W is happy, sad, grumpy, angry, etc.

some days she can be the kind loving woman i fell in love with and shows some (albeit small) affection and other days very cold and distant, i think i need to consider how i deal with the days (both types).

Quit trying to get a read on her and work up a game plan. This isn't about strategy, it's about YOU being the best YOU that you can be Let her worry about her crap, you can't fix her and if you try she's just going to think you're being controlling and manipulative.