we don't live with eachother, d for 3 years. In the beginning of our d, he would call me at OM's house and ask me to come over and we would ML, but that stopped three years ago. Another thing came to mind, every Wed, which is today, he has to drop off d to dance which lasts one hour, I live 8 mins away from dance studio and he knows I'm home from work, I figure that if he wants to work on relationship, he would come over to talk or something or even call me. Maybe I'm asking too much. I always assume things which I know you shouldn't do. But that would be great alone time, Sometimes, I would say casually that if you want to can come over, but either he goes over his brother's, his brother lives like 15 mins away from dance studio. Its like we are still married but without the sex. Even when we were married, sex with him wasn't the greatest, which I didn't find out until I went with OM. EXH was my first so I figured this is how it is. When I was with OM--OH BABY!!!!! But I have tried to get ex to try new things but he feels unconfortable (mind you, I don't ask to try crazy off the wall stuff) I suggested a massage with oil, he says oil is to be put on salads! I made myself into a hot fudge sundae and he told me to wash up, I'm getting the bed all sticky, try anal, no it doesn't no, it doesn't belong there. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship, but we don't cuddle or hold hands and I guess I'm the type of person who needs human contact, it makes me feel loved.
