It's really hard to make someone feel like they are losing you who wants to divorce you in the first place. I'd be open to suggestions on how to accomplish this without pursuing her.
Get out and GAL without her. The WAS will never miss a sad, desperate, moping LBS. But if they see the LBS laughing, going out, having fun, living it up, well then they start wondering what they're missing out on. But here's the tough part, the LBS can't just be acting like their GAL'ing. It has to be REAL. Because otherwise the WAS sees it as tricks to get them back.
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I'm seriously contemplating just giving her the divorce she wants instead of delaying. If that's what it takes to "open the cage" maybe it's for the best.
Delaying is never a good tactic, it just makes the WAS angry and resentful. You need to protect your interests, but don't do anything to stonewall the process.
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Each day I'm by myself, it feels like she's gone already, so it wouldn't be too much different.
This is hard for most LBS's to accept, but no matter what happens she IS already gone. Your old marriage is dead and gone, RIP. It was gone at BD. You can't get it back, and you shouldn't want to get it back. What you should strive for is a new M and R with your W. It can happen after S and even after D. Your sitch is still quite new, it'll be many months if not years before she might start to change her mind. It takes a lot of patience!
