Maybe you two are right!!! but I always basically go everywhere he asks me, except the last Sunday dinner. Now d mentioned that they will be going to the Cape again. He invited me last year and we went on this bike trail then, d and I went to the beach, while ex continued his ride. He told me "Mom, you are going to the Cape agin with us, you know how dad doesn't like to go to the beach, so we can stay on the beach until he is done." I feel just like a babysitter. No cuddling, no sweet names. Just good conversation, joking around--friends. Actually, I was going to tell you that last night I had to drop off d from dance to his house, he wasn't home, d said he is helping his brother. He came home and d was upstairs in the shower and we talked about the competition this weekend. My mom is coming with us and he hasn't mentioned going, so I asked him and he said he may come at night and take us all out to supper. We were in the kitchen and there was only one light on so it was romantic, just the two of us and he just kept on talking and talking about the competition and all the while I was thinking maybe I should ask him if I could give him a kiss or if I could sit on one of his knees (he was sitting on a kitchen chair) but then I thought, I might scare him and really back slide. but it just gets me thinking why doesn't he make a move. When I would come home from work when I was with OM there were times when I could tell he was "happy to see me", but I see nothing from ex which is getting me down. I figured he would initiate something, he never "looks happy to see me" and that would have been a perfect cuddle opportunity since it takes d like 40 mins to take a shower! He was never very sexual when we were married. One time we had a big fight about it and he told me that he wasn't made that way and that he is not into that kind of stuff--like oil massages, trying new positions. We were both eachothers first kiss, first sex and I made the first kiss move and he made the first sex move I guess I'm frustrated. I compliement him when he looks good (I try not to over due it) Our d has caught me checking him out and right in front of him she will say Mom stoop checking dad out!"