But when she sends a long email, and reveals her feelings like that (and I believe some of it was honest), do I just ignore it? I want to be fair if she has concerns she wants to express, I just hate email/text.
Again, your choice. We all get to decide what type of R we want to have. If the rescuer/fixer/victim role is one you enjoy and your R is meeting your needs, then continue having contact with her.
What is your goal? and don't say to be a great husband and father. Do you want to be in a R with this woman, or not?
Your words and actions are inconsistent. Like this:
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I don't believe I need someone to rescue, but I do feel like if I "let her go", she's going to spiral out of control with depression and debt and it'll be partially my fault
You can't stop or you won't stop rescuing because something in you needs that high.
You have to see it first to be able to change.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
