@labug - you're absolutely right in that description. That's probably the first and most important dynamic to change. I don't believe I need someone to rescue, but I do feel like if I "let her go", she's going to spiral out of control with depression and debt and it'll be partially my fault. I need to step out of that whirlpool.
But when she sends a long email, and reveals her feelings like that (and I believe some of it was honest), do I just ignore it? I want to be fair if she has concerns she wants to express, I just hate email/text.
@NTX - you're right, it says I can't "harass" her. W has used it as a weapon though. You can't beg someone to stay one day, and 36 hours later, use a restraining order to threaten them. That's why it was one of my "boundaries" - no in-person contact while it's in place, period.
