he commented no less than half a dozen times, in several different ways, on how much he disliked the town he's in. Now, I want to avoid mind-reading, but could he be trying to open the door to get me to invite him back into our home? I just don't know. I mean, he is still VERY focused on his job right now, seems to have no intention of leaving it atm, and that town is where the job is.
You're right, don't mind read and do you notice how you jumped right in to fixing things for him or thinking of fixing things? You're not even sure what he meant and you have an answer. You're skipping information gathering. I know this because I do it. Much less than I used to but I still have the tendency.
What did you say or ask when H said those things about where he's living? This is a good place to use open-ended questions or reflecting, It sounds as if you're not really happy with Town, tell me more.
Of course, come up with what is natural for you but open up the conversation. You might be surprised at what you learn.
As I'm writing this, I'm realizing I've fallen down in doing this more with my S20. We are all learning all the time.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
You're skipping information gathering. I know this because I do it. Much less than I used to but I still have the tendency.
