Apparently D16 wanted to carve a pumpkin because she came home from work with one in her arms, LOL! Her bestie came over too and she had her own pumpkin. So I threw a tarp over the dining table, found the little tools and saws from last year and turned them loose! W usually bakes the pumpkin seeds but she ain't around no more, so I looked up a recipe and they turned out awesome, so here's the recipe:
Put the seeds in a pot along with 2 cups water per 1/2 cup seeds and 1 tbsp salt per 1/2 cup seeds. Bring to boil, reduce heat, simmer for 10 minutes. Drain in a colendar. Coat a cookie sheet with olive oil, spread the seeds on it and bake at 400 degrees for 20 minutes or until the shells start browning.
We've never boiled them in the past, the boiling infuses them with salt versus just coating the outside with salt. We ate them almost as soon as they came out of the oven and they were really tasty!
Originally Posted By: 2old
Wow AS, do you think there may be a slow "thaw" in the works with your sitch?
I know better than to read too much into too little, I've made that mistake plenty of times in my sitch, LOL! So no expectations. But I have noticed that she's been sending more texts/ emails although they're almost always kid-related and she seems more friendly in our face-to-face interactions. The offer of bringing me food was something she did all the time before BD but that stopped cold after BD. So it's a bit unusual. That's about it though, last time I asked about the D paperwork she said it was being revised, so as far as I can tell the D is still "full steam ahead".
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
My s17 rarely goes to my stbx's and doesn't see her much. Like your older ones, he hates to talk about the sitch so I don't discuss it unless their is something I really feel he needs to know.
It's frustrating because we develop all these new communication tools when DB'ing and we want to use them. And we know it helps to work through this stuff. But kids don't know that and they want to process everything internally. I do reach out to them now and then to see if they want to talk, but I'm not being pushy about it.
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I don't want to influence their relationship and it can be tough to balance supporting and encouraging it when she doesn't make that much effort (IMO). I'm hopeful their relationship can improve but its out of my hands.
Whenever the kids complain about W I just validate, I don't try to defend her and I don't try to make her appear worse. I just tell them I understand, that it sounds frustrating, etc. For all I know they complain about me to her too.
