Well, I found out H has yet another secret phone! He did not break it off like he said. He is really ready to move out now. Before he wanted to stay through the holiday's for our kids and because we aren't financially able to. But he said he wanted to go. Then this morning he said I will make you a deal. I will stay through Christmas and tell his EA it's over (in front of me) H gave me his secret phone. I am sure he'll go get another one. Now 5-6 hours have gone buy and he said he is out. He said we agreed on it because I said if you are leaving after Christmas and won't work on us whats the point? I must have been drinking in the morning because I don't remember that at all!! I asked him what about the deal? Not anymore. I give up it's he's staying he's going every day! Honestly, I wanted him to stay so "I" could work on me and show him a better me. He says over and over everyday we will never be back. I told him why do you feel the need to tell me daily?? Anyway as it stands he is leaving. He was supposed to leave tomorrow but now he's working, has Weds off for now and working Thursday......
Why is this his decision? Why is the one who does NOT have the marriage's -- and the family's -- best interests at heart, the one who is calling all the shots??
