planet - I apologize, I didn't mean to just come out swinging at you. I know you're in a rough situation and it's hard to figure out what to do. I can't figure out things sometimes from hour to hour!
I remember with my XW1 - she moved into a new apartment, and decorated D13 and S11's room (they were 3 and 5 at the time). They loved it. Loved living there because it was all fresh and new and W didn't discipline them.
However, after about 6 weeks, the "new car smell" wore off, and they started liking it at my place because it was clean, neat, and I cooked dinner, and so on. Just a thought.
Also, stop caring what W thinks. Discipline carefully and appropriately and ignore her. Tell her if she wants to co-parent, and express valid concerns, then you're willing to listen. It's been almost 8 years, and XW1 called me yesterday almost in tears because the kids won't clean their rooms, won't listen, won't do what she says - reaping what she sowed so many years ago.
