What would be your signal that it's time to dip a toe in that water?
What would you need to hear from him?
God, that's a tough question. I think that I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing, and pushing him back into his tunnel, that I'm just waiting for him to make that move.
I really just need to know that his feelings for me and our M mean more to him than his feelings for OW. And that's broad, I know. Perhaps if his level of contact becomes consistently like the contact he's had this past week, I would feel it's time to start asking some open-ended questions about the future.
Let me throw something out. There were a couple of things that I heard him say this weekend over the course of our conversations: 1)when he was talking about the gym he joined in (town he's currently in), he mentioned that they were hopefully opening one in (town where our home is); 2)he commented no less than half a dozen times, in several different ways, on how much he disliked the town he's in. Now, I want to avoid mind-reading, but could he be trying to open the door to get me to invite him back into our home? I just don't know. I mean, he is still VERY focused on his job right now, seems to have no intention of leaving it atm, and that town is where the job is.
