NotAgain, Don't believe any of what he says, and none of what he does. My husband had EA 08/12 and we split for 5 months, begged me back, then 08/13 I caught him with second phone talking to her again. You can't tell me he hadn't had contact with her for a year.

Yesterday he asked me if I wanted him back? He misses his best friend and loves me. I honestly stood there and asked myself Do I want him back? I'm not sure right now. I'm not ready to "work on this marriage" and then get punched in the stomach again in 6 months.

Not sure what I'm doing yet, but he knows the first thing he has to do is call OW in front of me, let her know I'm standing there, and that he plans on working on marriage and they are to have no contact. That's just step 1. I want to be a choice, not an option.

I'm going to go back and read your thread because I'm not familiar with your entire situation, but IMO, you need to detach. And if it were me, his bags would be on the porch. But that's just me.

Me-49, H-45
M - 4, Together 9
SS-9
Bomb Dropped - 9/12
Separation - 10/12
Reconcile -2/13
Separation - 8/2013
Reconcile - 10/2013
Separation - 12/2013
Reconcile - 2/14
Separate - 5/14
H Filed D - 8/14