Thanks folks for the feedback, this is something i will work on, its difficult to not get sucked in when my wife is in a foul mood (i always think its something i have done) and i go into overdrive over-thinking every possible scenario and what i can do to make it better. Its so difficult to read sometimes, some days she can be the kind loving woman i fell in love with and shows some (albeit small) affection and other days very cold and distant, i think i need to consider how i deal with the days (both types).
Thanks again for your words H
Me: 39 W: 33 Son:7 Daughter:4 Its Over: March 7th 2013 Moved back home Mid June, trying to make it work